“No one is you, and that’s your super power!” – Maya Angelou
Self love is something that we simply don’t do enough of. And if we spoke to Joe Bloggs on the street the way we talk to ourselves sometimes, we wouldn’t be making friends that’s for sure. So if we wouldn’t talk to a stranger the way we talk to ourselves at times then things have to change. Here are some of my ideas for self love and much better self-talk…
Wear glitter and sparkles – everyone needs to shine so make sure you wear some glitter and sparkles everyday. It’s really simple to do without having to don your sequinned hot pants (unless you want to that is!). It can be a scarf, lipstick, eyeshow or even a bag or earrings. Just like stars you have you time to shine too… make it everyday!
A good morning stretch – I love nothing more that a full body stretch in the morning to get things moving and tune into my body. I listen to the sound it makes when I move, the subtle feelings and sensations of morning thirst and hunger. Try it one morning you’ll be surprised at what you find out about yourself, trust me!
Get your hair and/ or nails done regularly – if these are expensive luxuries in your part of the globe don’t break the bank, giving your nails a coat of polish and trying a new way of styling your hair works just as well. Just spend that time on you, without rushing; just time for you!
Do something that scares you – I’ve told my daughters throughout their lives that you must do something every day that scares you. You don’t have to do something that roots you to the spot with fear; I’m talking the fear of being outside your comfort zone. Something that makes you feel like you have accomplished something you we’re sure about!
Get enough sleep – sleep is one of the most important things for our bodies, along side drinking plenty of water and eating healthy. Our modern lives are so busy we sometimes consider sleeping hard to do. So make a ritual at bedtime. Start with a favourite non-caffeinated drink – if you survive on caffeine try something without it at bedtime – I’m experimenting with two tea bags in the same cup currently peppermint and camomile (fab combo).
Don’t eat a big meal before bed – a piece of toast might stave off the midnight snacks and help you through the night.
Relax – Take a bath of a shower with relaxing essential oil smells such as lavender. Use some pillow mist. Make sure your bed is comfy. Read a book; a tangible book (DON’T TINKER ON THE IPAD OR YOUR PHONE) and allow yourself to drift off to sleep naturally.
Dance – that’s right dance like no one is watching you, as the saying goes. Put some music on and throw some shapes or sway along to the beat. It doesn’t matter what you do so long as you move. Keeps you supple.
Scales are for fish! – Don’t punish yourself with diets. We also shouldn’t be stressing our bodies out with endless yo yo dieting. Instead learn to listen to your body. Start listening to your body. Only you can hear it asking you for a drink or something to eat. Don’t let outside influences – the clock, the scales, a diet club dictate to you and your body. Never forget dieting is a multi-billion dollar industry for a reason…diets don’t work and you are repeat business!
Catch a few rays – vitamin D is incredibly important to our survival so when the sun’s out make the most of it; your body and mood will thank you. Make sure you’re safe though – SLIP, SLOP, SLAP!
Try new make up – take a step or two outside your comfort zone with your make up like a new shade of lipstick; and if you don’t currently wear make up try some out, you might like it.
Media detox – can you do it? Can you have a total media detox? No internet, no Facebook, no social media at all. Nothing? The chances are that you can’t go completely cold turkey and we all know as soon as you make things off limits you want it more. So be selective about what you choose to give up and extend that period more and more until you’re no longer picking your phone up every five minutes to check your likes!!!
Love yourself unconditionally – you are completely unique; there is not another living soul the same as you. Embrace that. After all if you don’t love yourself how are you going to expect anyone else to love you?
If you fancy a piece of chocolate eat it – there I said it; the darker the better 60 or 70% cocoa solids is the way to go; but really taste it. Put it on your tongue and let it melt. Feel the texture. Immerse yourself in the experience.
If all else fails, read Holly’s words… they put everything into perspective. Holly Butcher died of cancer at the beginning of 2018 and her post and sweating the small stuff and what she will miss when she’s no longer around went viral. You may have already seen it. We have a mantra that is “what would Holly do” and when you read her words you’ll understand why!
Let me know how you practice self-love in the comments below; and if you’re not currently very high on the list of your priorities, how are you going to change that. I’d love to know.
Until next time lovelies,