“Hello my name is Sarah and I can be very hateful and cruel to my gorgeous body…”
I know that’s a bold opener for a Friday blog, but it’s so true. We all do it. We all feel, say and think things about our bodies that we would never dare say to a stranger in the supermarket queue. And yet somehow because it’s ‘us’ / ‘me’ it seems perfectly fine! Well beautiful, it isn’t!
I’m just as guilty at being beastly to my body as you; like I said I don’t mind admitting it. I don’t have all the answers or a magic wand to a) surprise you with a new body b) stop you doing it. But what I can do is help you to do is silence your ‘body bully’.
I get that it’s not enough to just say walk away from all that negative body talk; I’d feel fraud telling you to just do that. What I will say though is that none of what you think about your “awful, disgusting, fat, lumpy, spotty, stretch- marked, hooked nose, small eyes, wrinkled ….”[ *insert any other body problem here……………………….] defines you, unless you allow it to!
There are strong amazing women in my life who, won’t mind admitting are in their twilight years, are STILL trying to obtain the body beautiful. They will openly criticize their incredible bodies. The same bodies that have borne them children and kept them disease free all these year; still working towards the day when they can say, “There I’ve done it, I’m slim and gorgeous…”. Why do they do that? Because they are doing what we all do; believing THEY aren’t enough.
So my blog post today is very simple; all I want to do is inspire you and, if you want to, I want you to say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH, BECAUSE I AM ENOUGH! I want you to start loving the whole of you; every single bit. Whether it’s your jiggling belly or ‘thunder thighs’. Whether it’s your skinny arms, or your scars. Your stretch marks. Yours saggy boobs. Your 12 pack or even your nerdiness. Whatever it is I just want you to realise that you are a totally unique divine human being that is actually perfection! Yes you heard me right beautiful, you are perfection!
Rather than being cruel and hateful about your body and letting your inner ‘body bully’ know best and take control, why not stop and listen to what your fabulous body requires; because if you listen you will hear it calling to you. The only problem is that we have stifled our inner voice for so long with a barrage of criticism and insults that we ignore it when it does ‘speak’ to us. And when it does speak it’s usually a ‘cry for help’ in the form of an illness or anxiety.
I want to encourage you to love yourself in the way that feels right for you. Whether that is eating ‘cleaner’ unprocessed foods, cutting down on the booze, giving up smoking, meditating, working less, getting a good night’s sleep, only you know what resonates with you. You could of course stand in front of a mirror naked and really look at yourself in minute detail, making your peace with all the bits you hate, but I’m not convinced that works for everyone; and certainly not for me!
Using the mantra ENOUGH IS ENOUGH, BECAUSE I AM ENOUGH has really changed my outlook on my body, because it has done some amazing things. It’s broken limbs and repaired itself. It’s had children. It’s survived a near drowning. So when I find myself planning to go out and have ‘nothing that fits’ I remind myself of that. I also remind myself that there are people who love me [in the words of the fabulous Bridget Jones] “just as I am.” Not fatter; not thinner; not tanned; not more beautiful; not with longer hair. They love me for who I am and I in turn must love myself just as I am! It’s not always easy, trust me on that score, but baby steps are the way!
So if you take nothing else away from this blog post than the fact that it has given you food for thought, then that’s cool with me. So long as you start one step on your journey of self love today, then that makes me happy.
Until next time beautiful…