“Comparison is the thief of joy.” —Theodore Roosevelt
Hands up, who compares themselves to others? Maybe it’s a little or maybe it’s often, but 100% guarantee we all do it; but why?
It’s human nature to be attracted to something; a primeval instinct that, way back in the day, helped us find a mate so our species could flourish. But fast forward to the 21st century, we no longer have to find a mate to guarantee the continuation our kind, yet that doesn’t stop us looking across the field at a bright shiny new piece of grass and saying “Wow it’s looks so much better over there!“
Whilst comparison provides us with the best car insurance or holiday, it doesn’t help our self esteem, and robs us of energy and time. Each day we get a fresh batch of 86,400 seconds, so using even one to make comparisons between yourself and others is one second too many!
What can you gain from comparison?
Answer nothing, zip, squat, zilch, nada… you’re an entirely unique, complete, whole being with your own gifts and talents; so by definition they can’t be compared like for like.
So how can you quit comparing yourself to others?
Pursue the greater things in life
Become intimately aware of your own successes
Remind yourself nobody is perfect and it’s those things that you deem flaws, other actually love
Get inspiration but without comparison
A picture doesn’t tell 1000 words, it uses PhotoShop! Remember that when flicking through Instagram, magazines and comparing yourself
Finally a reality check; everyone has their own challenges to deal with, which means you don’t know what that person you chose to go compare yourself with is going through. In actual fact, the chances are, they’re looking at your life and comparing themselves to you!